The popular conception of shame in America is a onsesided version of 1990s TV host John Bradshaw’s “toxic shame.” This translates a shame moment signaling I have done something bad into a character flaw: I am bad. But already in
Shame 3. Healthy Shame Promotes Repair of All our Relations.
When we’re familiar with the compass of shame responses in our lives, we don’t need to be ashamed when noticing we have just enacted one or more of them, either internally or in external actions. Instead we can be interested
Shame 2. Origins of Shame and Revisions of How it Works.
The origin of shame is often an awkward, nameless void when we expect a tuned-in response by the person to whom we’re expressing ourselves. Thus what is most important about the actual experience of shame is that it does not
Shame Benefits Our Growth: 1. Popular Awareness and Physiology
Of all the nine inborn human emotions, shame is probably the most undervalued and certainly the most underappreciated. At least this is true in America where high self-confidence is valued for achieving success, wealth, power and fame. The popular conception
Prologue: WHY FOCUS ON “TOXIC MASCULINITY?”
The Love and Power Institute posits a few fundamental ideas about the crisis threatening our sustainability as a species today: that overpopulation and unprecedented technological capabilities have led us to destabilize and degrade the earth until very drastic measures will
Every Man I’m Attracted to Dies
Every Man I’m attracted to dies in my dreams. Questioner: I’ve been having dreams about any man I’m very interested in dying right in front of me. It happens every time I realize how much I like someone and it’s
My Dead Husband Wants to Remarry!
by Norman M. Brown Ph.D. | The Dream: I had a dream last night that my deceased husband came back and I was so excited. We were affectionate with each other and he proceeds to tell me he was going
Water Over The Bridge: Dream Interpretation
by Norman M. Brown Ph.D. | Dreamer: I am in late middle age, and born as the middle of 5 children. All of my life I had a dream that I am on one side of a bridge but water
Lactating But Single: Dream Interpretation
by Norman M. Brown Ph.D. | Dreamer: I had a dream that I was secretly expressing milk from my breast because my breast just started lactating. They were squirting milk! I’m single, not married and don’t have a baby… What
Toxic Masculinity 1: Introduction
by Norman M. Brown Ph.D. | Toxic Masculinity has become a polarizing cliché since the early 2000s. Men who don’t understand what it means are outraged., Women who don’t understand it either can feel vindicated in disliking men as well