We have presented a case for women’s development of managerial competence in the business world previously dominated by men. Now we turn to the benefits of shame for powering individual development, where women also may have a biological advantage. Self-doubt
6. Women and Shame: Insecurity or Energy for Improvement at Work?
As a personal therapist I often hear from women in all walks of life that they can’t keep from doubting themselves now and then. Their self-esteem is often fragile, no matter how successful and well-paid they are in their careers.
5. Further Shame Research, from Toddlers to Computers and Adults
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Research on Shame based on Disrupted Relations
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Shame 3. Healthy Shame Promotes Repair of All our Relations.
When we’re familiar with the compass of shame responses in our lives, we don’t need to be ashamed when noticing we have just enacted one or more of them, either internally or in external actions. Instead we can be interested
Shame 2. Origins of Shame and Revisions of How it Works.
The origin of shame is often an awkward, nameless void when we expect a tuned-in response by the person to whom we’re expressing ourselves. Thus what is most important about the actual experience of shame is that it does not
Shame Benefits Our Growth: 1. Popular Awareness and Physiology
Of all the nine inborn human emotions, shame is probably the most undervalued and certainly the most underappreciated. At least this is true in America where high self-confidence is valued for achieving success, wealth, power and fame. The popular conception
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The Love and Power Institute posits a few fundamental ideas about the crisis threatening our sustainability as a species today: that overpopulation and unprecedented technological capabilities have led us to destabilize and degrade the earth until very drastic measures will
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